meet jen
Certified Trauma-Informed Master Life Coach.
Recovering Perfectionist and People Pleaser.
Yoga Teacher. Author. Columnist.
I recently had a jaw-dropping realization: I’d been relating to my business as if it were my parents.
This “prover” part of me—the one that always sought validation and approval—was quietly influencing my decisions and how I felt about task execution. I was working to prove my worth, even in a business meant to empower women.
That insight stopped me in my tracks. It reminded me how deeply the relationship we have with ourselves shapes everything we do—our business, our relationships, and how we show up in the world.
My own relationship with myself began to shift in my late 40s, catalyzed by a painful divorce. That chapter of my life cracked me open. It was the start of my deepest inner work—a journey of untangling childhood beliefs, healing trauma, and learning how to meet myself with compassion rather than criticism.
For most of my life, I was the “good girl.” The good student. The good partner. I was driven by performance, perfection, and pleasing others, but underneath, I was struggling with self-doubt, fear of mistakes, and a belief that I was never enough.
It wasn’t until I found myself standing alone at midlife—divorced, uncertain, and stripped of the external identities I’d clung to—that I finally started asking different questions. Instead of “I am broken. How do I fix myself?” I began asking, “What do I need? What would it mean to trust myself?”
That shift changed everything.
In the years since, I’ve:
Transformed my self-doubt into self-trust. I gave myself permission to be messy, make mistakes, and still be worthy.
Uncovered the unconscious patterns I inherited from my family of origin—patterns that kept me small, without boundaries, and stuck.
Reclaimed my sovereignty. I learned how to meet my needs without outsourcing my worth to relationships or accomplishments.
Regulated my nervous system. My life is more expansive now and I am stepping into my dreams with greater confidence and less anxiety.
Made bold choices. Like moving to Mexico, writing a book, starting my own business, and finding love again—on my terms.
My inner work didn’t just heal me; it gave me choices. And those choices have supported me to build a life and business I love.
This journey isn’t unique to me—it’s one that so many women business owners navigate. When we don’t address the beliefs and patterns we carry, they bleed into our businesses, limiting what we allow ourselves to create and experience.
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. Inner work is the most important work we do—not just for ourselves, but for the businesses, relationships, and lives we want to build.
Certifications:
Trauma-Informed Master Coach (Elementum Coaching Institute: Alexi Panos, Preston Smiles, Christine Hassler, Stefanos Sifandos)
Integrative Wellness Coach (Integrative Wellness Academy: Dr. Rachel Dew)
Yoga Teacher
M.B.A.
And life.
